Standing in Your Power
What does it mean to stand in your power or for that matter, what does it mean to even have power?
How many times have we heard statements that speak; “stand up and be a man”, “be strong”, “suck it up and deal with it”, “be the powerful leader I am paying you to be”, “don’t let them walk all over you”, “you are powerless over your body”, “you are powerless over substances of any kind”, “you are powerless over your addiction”; and the list could go on and on.
Have you ever noticed how “dis-empowering” every accepted belief system is within the world? Do you remember day dreaming and playing as a child? Did adults tell you that you can be anything you want to be, if you put your mind to it?
When did the life experience become so dis-empowering? If you think back, it was most likely when you entered the school system and encountered the limitations imposed by the system. Of course for some people they may have been born into an extreme dysfunctional family that allowed them to encounter the hard knocks of life much sooner than the start of the school experience and many people do not remember experiencing a childhood in which daydreaming was a part of it; I do believe all children daydream and pretend in their minds but some people cannot remember those times because the life experience has been so traumatic they work very hard to block out any memories and block out the daydreams as well.
So the circumstances surrounding the “beginning point” of the life experience certainly play a major role in the course the life experience “may take”.
The goal is to try to remember a time in your life when you did not feel such limitations, when you still held the dream inside of you that you can be anything you desire, if you just put your mind to it. And then try to remember when you stopped believing that to be true. It is not important to remember every experience you have had in your life that has shaped you into who you are today but to try to remember “your innocence” and when you stopped being innocent.
There is another ancient belief that all must return to the innocence of a child but what that really means is to “be able to believe again like you believed as a child. Everything seemed magical, the false beliefs of Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny, Giants, Super Heroes, the Fairy Tale romance, etc.
Returning to the innocence of a child does not mean believing in false beliefs but “believing in your own power” and through the innocence of a child, all things seem to be possible.
Children pretend and make believe, many may have invisible friends that they are quite certain are there and they communicate with just as naturally as anyone else and yet adults are all too eager to make their child grow up and stop pretending and “live in the real world”.
Children do not come with instructions and neither does being a parent. Parents do the best they can at any given moment even though many seem to fall short of the role. Of course there have been many who think they know what it takes to be the best parent and yet there remains the seemingly ever growing issues in parenting and growing up as a child, which seems to say that there are no set of rules that works for everyone.
Standing in your power is not about being a forbearing force to be reckoned with, it is about having an unwavering foundation that is going to allow you to stand strong and tall regardless what life presents to you but the cultural systems of the world do not teach that to children. Instead they are taught about competition, what it means to push your way to the front of the line to get what you want and if you cannot get what you want that way then to just take what you want.
Society desires to attach blame to anyone for all of the seemingly terrible things in the world. The first place they look are the parents, where did the parents go wrong in raising their children. In my opinion, the parents are not to blame but society as a whole because no one really knows what it means to live in balance nor how to pass on such knowledge to their children. But blame is not even the real word of the issue, it is simply a matter of needed healing.
Children are a “clean, blank slate” when they are born simply because they have no memory of anything prior to being born so the way that children grow to become adults is completely the result of the culture they are “programmed” within.
Children are like sponges and eager to take it all in and learn and experience everything there is to discover and because they have so much more energy than adults can wear adults out very quickly with their eager energy. The majority of the population still believe the ancient thought that “children should be seen and not heard”. Well, then why have children to begin with if all you want to do is tape their mouth shut and tell them to grow up and stop acting like a child. I have always considered that thought to be rather ironic.
We all become dis-empowered at an early age simply because children are not allowed to have a voice within the adult world. A child still feels “alive” and eager to thrive and experience it all until they reach a point when they are taught they cannot experience it all and there are limitations and rules they must abide by and very quickly, the eagerness of the child can be shut down.
It simply amazes me that children actually make it through the puberty years, dealing with their body changing, their voice changing, hormones turning on within their body and raging out of control and adults putting more chains on them than ever before. Pretty much like caging an anxious animal! Who are they suppose to turn to? Of course, their peers who are dealing with the same traumatic issues.
We cannot protect our children from the hard knocks of life but I feel many fall quite short in preparing them for them. We desire to protect our children as long as possible and some parents think they can continue to do so even when the child becomes an adult which can make matters even worse. We see our children as an “extension of our self” and most caring parents desire to recreate the things they wished they had accomplished via their children.
Personally the childhood experience is not an experience I desire to encounter again anytime soon.
But we can blame our life experience on our childhood and all of the challenges of actually making it to adulthood or we can “remember our power” and stop blaming anything for what we experience.
Remembering our personal power requires “taking absolute responsibility for our self” because if we desire to blame anything outside of our self for our life experience we are giving our power away.
Once you accomplish creating your personal strong love foundation and remember the feeling of love flowing within you then you will have reached a stronger point of healing to allow you to choose if that balanced love is the life you desire to express within or if you desire to continue one filled with chaos and challenges. Only you know what you desire to experience. Personally, I choose the life of balance and love because it feels so much better.
When you remember the feeling of that overwhelming love of Source flowing through you then you “have remembered” your personal power. That overwhelming love IS your personal power; it is your powerful energy that you can use to create anything you desire to experience. There is one catch though, love will only create more love, it will not create imbalance so if you desire revenge or justification for something you will not be able to create it through love. This is why we cannot heal into balance and remember our personal power if we desire to continue to blame someone else for our experiences. We must be willing to take absolute responsibility for our self!
That can be a very scary thing for many people, to take absolute responsibility for everything they experience. Do you desire to become the powerful expression of Source you were created to be or do you desire to remain locked up within a world of darkness that holds an uncountable number of uncertainties? The choice is yours!
Imagine a wounded child that has been shut off in the darkness but can still hear every sound that occurs within the darkness, not knowing what is creating those sounds the child hides in the corner terrified of what might jump out of the darkness. That is what our body has been dealing with for a very long time and is what the body deals with surviving through the process of being the child and forced to grow into being an adult.
There were most likely many things you did not understand as a child and was either to afraid to ask or felt there was no one to ask and we must all deal with our emotions in some way, when we do not know how to deal with them we stuff them deep down inside of us and try to ignore what is hiding in the darkness. It is a very sad situation of life on this planet and one that needs to be healed yesterday, not tomorrow or the next day.
We need to learn how to communicate with the children and listen to them and their seemingly silly questions and answer them as honestly as we can with the understanding we hold to offer them instead of creating fairy tales to sugar coat the truth and try to hide them from the truth for as long as possible. That is the only way to prepare them for the life of adulthood.
When my two boys were in high school the school adopted a “short lived program” that I thought was great. As part of the class assignment they were paired off in couples and assigned a baby doll which they were both responsible for during the interim of the assignment. They had to treat it and care for it as if it were a new born infant even setting their alarm to wake up for night time feedings. They had to find a baby sitter if they wanted to go out and they had to pay the baby sitter. The assignment was designed to make the experience as close as possible to the real life experience.
Of course, most all of the children involved in this assignment hated it and hated it even more well before the assignment was finished. But it did cut down on teen pregnancies within that school! The program was stopped because there were parents complaining that it took up to much of their child’s time. Really!
We have forgotten how to communicate as a society and is why social networking is so popular because it provides a wall to hide behind while communicating the things we are afraid to say in public which is part of the mass dis-empowerment program and the fact that the masses are terrified of anything and everything.
It is time to reclaim your inner power, to fill yourself with so much love that nothing will be able to knock you down and allow you to look at every challenge that might come at you through the eyes of love because doing so will show you the immediate response needed to gently move through that experience and come out the other side even stronger than you were when you walked into it.
You are a powerful force, you were born a powerful force and simply because you can “think”, you remain a powerful force. Start using that power to create what you do want to experience instead of the things you wish would go away and they will go away much faster.
Believe, Dream, Imagine, Pretend and see your future as you desire it to be. Only you hold the power to create it! Love is the most powerful energy that exists in all of creation.
